Wednesday, November 12, 2014

You Found Your Man, Now You Need Your Girls!

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Choosing your bridal party can be a tricky situation. The most important thing to remember while planning is that who you ask to be in your bridal party is up to you! Don’t let others influence your decision. Only you will know who will make the best fit for your bridal party.
Here are some helpful tips to remember while planning:
  1. Don’t ask someone who doesn’t want to be in your wedding. Remember the purpose of a bridal party and the duties your bridesmaids have! Not only are they there for support on the big day, but they are the ones who will be up till 3 a.m. with you days before your wedding making centerpieces and DIY projects!

  2. You may have friends that might not be able to afford it. Weddings are expensive and can be very costly for a bridesmaid. When you calculate bridal shower/bachelorette gifts, dress, shoes, hair and makeup, traveling fees for the wedding or bachelorette party, and a wedding gift…it all adds up quickly! (Also, don’t forget about the money you may be spending on gifts for your bridal party. It can be costly for them and you!) Avoid any awkward situations by simply having a heart to heart with your friend if you know she can’t afford it. There are plenty of other ways to share your big day that don’t include all the costs.

  3. Your close circle of friends may change overtime. Save yourself from unwanted drama and the awkwardness that may arise when you decide you no longer want someone in your wedding. Wait until you have a wedding date set and have really took the time to think about who you want by your side. Also, you may want to ask yourself will you be friends in 10 years, 20 years, 30+ years? It’s important that the bridesmaids you choose will be by your side and support your marriage not only on your big day, but for years to come!

  4. Your bridesmaids don’t have to be your best friend from years ago. Friendship isn’t about who you have known the longest, it’s much more than that. Don’t feel like you have to ask someone you have known for ten years that you hardly ever talk to, over someone you have known for a shorter amount of time that is always there for you.

  5. Your bridal party doesn’t have to be an even amount. There is no rule that says you have to have the same amount of bridesmaids and groomsmen. If you and your fiancĂ© have a different amount, that is okay. Don’t feel pressured to fill in spots to match his or vice versa. There are more important things to worry about than making sure the bridal party is even for pictures.

  6. Don’t forget to include siblings (including your family to be.) Family is forever, so you will most likely want to include them on your big day. If you both have large families, you may decide to include some and not others. In order to avoid hurt feelings or issues, avoid singling out one person. Although you and your fiancĂ© may be making your own decisions of whom you each want in the bridal party, the family members you are including should be decided together.

  7.  You don’t have to return the favor. Just because you were in someone’s wedding doesn’t mean they have to be in yours. If they confront you, just be completely honest by explaining to them that it was a hard decision, but you wanted the people that you feel closest to at this point in your life. Any true friend will be okay with the decision you make.
Planning your bridal party should be exciting and fun! Don’t let the stress of who to ask get in the way of that. Remember that no matter who you choose, they will feel honored to share your special day with you and make it a memorable one!
Happy planning!
~Danielle S. 

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