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Choosing your bridal party can be a tricky situation. The most important thing to remember while planning is that who you ask to be in your bridal party is up to you! Don’t let others influence your decision. Only you will know who will make the best fit for your bridal party.
Here are some helpful tips to remember while planning:
- Don’t ask
someone who doesn’t want to be in
your wedding. Remember the purpose of a bridal party and the duties your
bridesmaids have! Not only are they there for support on the big day, but they
are the ones who will be up till 3 a.m. with you days before your wedding
making centerpieces and DIY projects!
- You may have friends
that might not be able to afford it.
Weddings are expensive and can be very costly for a bridesmaid. When you
calculate bridal shower/bachelorette gifts, dress, shoes, hair and makeup,
traveling fees for the wedding or bachelorette party, and a wedding gift…it all
adds up quickly! (Also, don’t forget about the money you may be spending on gifts for your bridal party. It can be
costly for them and you!) Avoid any awkward situations by simply having a heart
to heart with your friend if you know she can’t afford it. There are plenty of
other ways to share your big day that don’t include all the costs.
- Your close
circle of friends may change overtime.
Save yourself from unwanted drama and the awkwardness that may arise when you
decide you no longer want someone in your wedding. Wait until you have a
wedding date set and have really took the time to think about who you want by
your side. Also, you may want to ask yourself will you be friends in 10 years,
20 years, 30+ years? It’s important that the bridesmaids you choose will be by your side
and support your marriage not only on your big day, but for years to come!
- Your bridesmaids
don’t have to be your best friend
from years ago. Friendship isn’t about who you have known the longest, it’s
much more than that. Don’t feel like you have to ask someone you have known for
ten years that you hardly ever talk to, over someone you have known for a
shorter amount of time that is always
there for you.
- Your bridal
party doesn’t have to be an even
amount. There is no rule that says you have to have the same amount of
bridesmaids and groomsmen. If you and your fiancé have a different amount, that
is okay. Don’t feel pressured to fill in spots to match his or vice versa.
There are more important things to worry about than making sure the bridal
party is even for pictures.
- Don’t forget to
include siblings (including your family to be.) Family is forever, so
you will most likely want to include them on your big day. If you both have
large families, you may decide to include some and not others. In order to
avoid hurt feelings or issues, avoid singling out one person. Although you and
your fiancé may be making your own decisions of whom you each want in the
bridal party, the family members you are including should be decided together.
- You don’t have to return the favor. Just
because you were in someone’s wedding doesn’t
mean they have to be in yours. If they confront you, just be completely
honest by explaining to them that it was a hard decision, but you wanted the
people that you feel closest to at this point in your life. Any true friend will be okay with the
decision you make.
Planning your bridal party should be exciting and fun! Don’t let the stress of who to ask get in the way of that. Remember that no matter who you choose, they will feel honored to share your special day with you and make it a memorable one!